Another Weird Japanese Story

[Jack Reed]

gelaye said:

man african mothers are something else.....you always have to remember tho, that shes doing it cos she loves you, WHILE shes giving you a ear pinching, ass whoopin, shouting about 'what the HELL do you think your doing im gonna BUST yo ass up till...' ok thats a stereotype but its true my african mother was WAY more ferocious than any of my white, english freinds mothers.!!!

There's a generational difference here in the USA. I would've gotten whooped if I would've behaved like some of the kids today. Of course, my dad and mom probably would've been arrested for abuse in the infantilized culture of today. I got the belt a few times, and it didn't turn me into a serial killer, but I do wear suspenders. ;-)

[Josh]

toasty said:

josh said:

Yeah, my almost 40 year old cousin is a great example of this. His mom was always very clingy to him, and as a result, he basically let her control his life. This has hurt his ability to be independent and it has made him underdeveloped in many ways. For example, he rather childishly goes on and on about his various collections. He has moved back in with his mother several times. Even today, she says it seems so weird now that he's moved to another state. She said, "He can't do that, he's always been around." Nice going, making your son into a maladjusted momma's boy . He'll probably live out the rest of his days unmarried and with no long-term fulfillment. I feel bad for him, that his whole life was ruined by his overbearing mother. In my family, I look to him as the prime example of how I don't want to turn out (luckily, I know I have nothing to worry about).

So your brother is basically like Steve Carrell's character in the 40 year old virgin???

Cousin you mean? Actually, I haven't seen the movie, so I can't say. He's had relationships, and he was engaged for a while, but I imagine that it was his immature social skills that eventually turned them off.

[buddy]

jackreed1 said:

gelaye said:

man african mothers are something else.....you always have to remember tho, that shes doing it cos she loves you, WHILE shes giving you a ear pinching, ass whoopin, shouting about 'what the HELL do you think your doing im gonna BUST yo ass up till...' ok thats a stereotype but its true my african mother was WAY more ferocious than any of my white, english freinds mothers.!!!

There's a generational difference here in the USA. I would've gotten whooped if I would've behaved like some of the kids today. Of course, my dad and mom probably would've been arrested for abuse in the infantilized culture of today. I got the belt a few times, and it didn't turn me into a serial killer, but I do wear suspenders. ;-)

I agree here, parents today are much more hesitant to use a little bit of force as a form of discipline. All in all though, IMO parents are too easy on their children today, and that's probably why an unacceptably high number of them are either immature or maladjusted nowadays. Whenever I was out of line as a kid, I definitely got yelled at or a couple times hit on the behind ;D. My mother did some yelling, but it was mostly my father (who you could hear for miles lol). My father was always very big on having respect, it comes from his old-school Sicilian upbringing. My mother was that way too, but she wasn't quite as outspoken about it.

[Josh]

Hehe, in my family, my mom does all the yelling. She's more or less the dominant parent. That was also true for her parents when she was a kid. I don't know about my dad's parents and which ones yelled, but he's very mild mannered.

[buddy]

^Josh that's pretty funny, and I couldn't help but notice that in both of our cases, it's the Italian parent doing the yelling. The friends I have who are also part-Italian say the same thing LOL. It's that no-nonsense type of attitude. I have to say that there is some truth to the stereotype of the Mediterranean hothead ;D. The majority of my friends actually have very calm mild-mannered fathers hehe.

[Jack Reed]

buddy said:

jackreed1 said:

There's a generational difference here in the USA. I would've gotten whooped if I would've behaved like some of the kids today. Of course, my dad and mom probably would've been arrested for abuse in the infantilized culture of today. I got the belt a few times, and it didn't turn me into a serial killer, but I do wear suspenders. ;-)

I agree here, parents today are much more hesitant to use a little bit of force as a form of discipline. All in all though, IMO parents are too easy on their children today, and that's probably why an unacceptably high number of them are either immature or maladjusted nowadays. Whenever I was out of line as a kid, I definitely got yelled at or a couple times hit on the behind ;D. My mother did some yelling, but it was mostly my father (who you could hear for miles lol). My father was always very big on having respect, it comes from his old-school Sicilian upbringing. My mother was that way too, but she wasn't quite as outspoken about it.

I know what you mean, Buddy. I'm shocked when I hear kids call their mom a bad name or tell their dad where to go. I would just be waking up from a coma if I had said something like that to my parents. They acted like I set the dog on fire if I cussed in front of them. <G> Don't get me wrong. I rarely was physically disciplned because I behaved and obeyed most of the time when I was a kid. My parents never abused me in any way, but I was spanked when I deserved it. I doubt that I will spank my kids, but I recognize the difference between abuse and discipline when parents choose to use that option.

[buddy]

^Exactly. My situation was virtually identical to yours.