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Post by Jack Reed on Jan 9, 2006 0:47:11 GMT -5
I saw a news segment about a Japanese version of "The Nanny 911". The nanny was called by Japanese parents to help them with their difficult *teenaged* children. Some of these kids engaged in infantile behavior like thumb-sucking and whining like a toddler. One boy refused to leave his room for a few *years*! He was sent to a special place run by the nanny, and he was too weak to do many physical activities. The nanny said that many Japanese adolescents are coddled and pampered to an extreme degree. She said that this caused a lot of problems with adolescents there. I was surprised to learn that the phenomenon was to this extent. I read some crazy posts about Japan here. Is this latest story a part of a modern pattern?
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Post by Josh on Jan 9, 2006 3:19:30 GMT -5
That's pretty messed up. It makes me thankful that my parents raised me well. Midway through reading your post, I was going to ask, "Is this just an isolated freak incident that could have happened under unusual circumstances in any country?" If what the nanny says is true, that is rather disturbing. I wonder what Japan will look like when these adolescents are middle aged and running the country.
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Post by aroundtheworld on Jan 9, 2006 15:44:34 GMT -5
I have heard that some japanese women commit incest with their sons.
Aaaaack.
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Post by Jack Reed on Jan 9, 2006 20:24:40 GMT -5
That's pretty messed up. It makes me thankful that my parents raised me well. Midway through reading your post, I was going to ask, "Is this just an isolated freak incident that could have happened under unusual circumstances in any country?" If what the nanny says is true, that is rather disturbing. I wonder what Japan will look like when these adolescents are middle aged and running the country. I saw the segment on Cable Headline News. It was very short, so it might not have been representative of the entire series. The scene where the 13-year-old was dragged, kicking and screaming, from his bedroom was disturbing. He acted like he was three. They showed him at the nanny's facility. He crouched by a window in the gym because he was afraid to play basketball. His muscles were too weak (from his long isolation?) for him to clean the gym floor with the other residents. I hope, like you said, that these things are extreme and rare.
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Post by Jack Reed on Jan 9, 2006 20:26:26 GMT -5
I have heard that some japanese women commit incest with their sons. Aaaaack. "Aaaack" is right. You just won the award for the grossest post in Dodona history. ;-)
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Post by gelaye on Jan 10, 2006 4:41:18 GMT -5
oh yeah i watched that programme here in in england it was aboubt japanese teenage boys (and sometimes girls) who lock themselves in their room for months, even years, just playing video games and using the net - the wierd thing is their parents still provide food etc and they dont seem stressed about it......if that was my mum i know she would break down the door and start yelling at me about how messed up my room is and how im gonna get a bad back from staying at the computer so long.....!! (african mother lol)
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Post by nordicyouth on Jan 10, 2006 16:38:55 GMT -5
African mothers are pretty fierce. In that respect they have more in common with Slavic mothers than the latter do with Western Europeans. My mom's Polish, and she was feared by the other kids...one time she chased them up a block and caught one who started to cry and whimper...lol...good ol' days: "Don't diss his mom man, she'll kick your ass!"
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Post by Batrus on Jan 11, 2006 20:52:06 GMT -5
oh yeah i watched that programme here in in england it was aboubt japanese teenage boys (and sometimes girls) who lock themselves in their room for months, even years, just playing video games and using the net - the wierd thing is their parents still provide food etc and they dont seem stressed about it......if that was my mum i know she would break down the door and start yelling at me about how messed up my room is and how im gonna get a bad back from staying at the computer so long.....!! (african mother lol) My father would probably steel my door ;D. He always did that even for stupid situations like closing the door too much at night when he's sleeping. Now i laugh but at the time i got really annoyed.
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Post by Jack Reed on Jan 12, 2006 0:50:59 GMT -5
oh yeah i watched that programme here in in england it was aboubt japanese teenage boys (and sometimes girls) who lock themselves in their room for months, even years, just playing video games and using the net - the wierd thing is their parents still provide food etc and they dont seem stressed about it......if that was my mum i know she would break down the door and start yelling at me about how messed up my room is and how im gonna get a bad back from staying at the computer so long.....!! (african mother lol) That sounds like an interesting documentary. I doubt that many American parents, Black or White, would put up with it. I doubt that I ever spent more than twelve hours at a time in my room when I was a kid. I waited until much later to develop an internet addiction. ;-)
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Post by gelaye on Jan 12, 2006 15:11:53 GMT -5
man african mothers are something else.....you always have to remember tho, that shes doing it cos she loves you, WHILE shes giving you a ear pinching, ass whoopin, shouting about 'what the HELL do you think your doing im gonna BUST yo ass up till...' ok thats a stereotype but its true my african mother was WAY more ferocious than any of my white, english freinds mothers.!!!
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Post by MC anunnaki on Jan 12, 2006 15:18:00 GMT -5
Middle Eastern parenting is pretty much the same. My mother would probably drop dead have I treated her with the disrespect that some of my Swedish friends showed their mothers, among those one who when we were only 13 called her own mother 'whore' and the mother hardly even reacted. I remember that as a moment when you truly wish you could just sink through the ground. I wanted to apologize to the mother on behalf of her daughter, but the mother seemed used to be called that...
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Post by buddy on Jan 12, 2006 19:41:01 GMT -5
I have heard that some japanese women commit incest with their sons. Aaaaack. Um...that's a very disturbing image .
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Post by buddy on Jan 12, 2006 19:44:44 GMT -5
That's pretty messed up. It makes me thankful that my parents raised me well. Midway through reading your post, I was going to ask, "Is this just an isolated freak incident that could have happened under unusual circumstances in any country?" If what the nanny says is true, that is rather disturbing. I wonder what Japan will look like when these adolescents are middle aged and running the country. Ditto Josh. I just can't imagine that. I'm also quite happy that my parents raised me to be independent and self-sufficient but respectful and courteous as well. I'm blessed because they always simply let me be who I wanted to. Tragically, so many parents try to have way too much influence over the lives of their children.
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Post by Josh on Jan 14, 2006 1:29:09 GMT -5
That's pretty messed up. It makes me thankful that my parents raised me well. Midway through reading your post, I was going to ask, "Is this just an isolated freak incident that could have happened under unusual circumstances in any country?" If what the nanny says is true, that is rather disturbing. I wonder what Japan will look like when these adolescents are middle aged and running the country. Ditto Josh. I just can't imagine that. I'm also quite happy that my parents raised me to be independent and self-sufficient but respectful and courteous as well. I'm blessed because they always simply let me be who I wanted to. Tragically, so many parents try to have way too much influence over the lives of their children. Yeah, my almost 40 year old cousin is a great example of this. His mom was always very clingy to him, and as a result, he basically let her control his life. This has hurt his ability to be independent and it has made him underdeveloped in many ways. For example, he rather childishly goes on and on about his various collections. He has moved back in with his mother several times. Even today, she says it seems so weird now that he's moved to another state. She said, "He can't do that, he's always been around." Nice going, making your son into a maladjusted momma's boy . He'll probably live out the rest of his days unmarried and with no long-term fulfillment. I feel bad for him, that his whole life was ruined by his overbearing mother. In my family, I look to him as the prime example of how I don't want to turn out (luckily, I know I have nothing to worry about).
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Post by Toasty on Jan 14, 2006 2:08:22 GMT -5
Ditto Josh. I just can't imagine that. I'm also quite happy that my parents raised me to be independent and self-sufficient but respectful and courteous as well. I'm blessed because they always simply let me be who I wanted to. Tragically, so many parents try to have way too much influence over the lives of their children. Yeah, my almost 40 year old cousin is a great example of this. His mom was always very clingy to him, and as a result, he basically let her control his life. This has hurt his ability to be independent and it has made him underdeveloped in many ways. For example, he rather childishly goes on and on about his various collections. He has moved back in with his mother several times. Even today, she says it seems so weird now that he's moved to another state. She said, "He can't do that, he's always been around." Nice going, making your son into a maladjusted momma's boy . He'll probably live out the rest of his days unmarried and with no long-term fulfillment. I feel bad for him, that his whole life was ruined by his overbearing mother. In my family, I look to him as the prime example of how I don't want to turn out (luckily, I know I have nothing to worry about). So your brother is basically like Steve Carrell's character in the 40 year old virgin???
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