Did you sleep in your Parents Bed????

[Ptolemy]

I have two daughters, and throughout the night, it never fails, they both end up in mine and my wife's bed.

I don't mind this. Their ages are 13 and 11.

I think I occasionally slept with my parents up to about age 11.

However, I was talking with a co-worker who said he never slept with his parents, and never lets his children sleep in the same bed as him, and thought the custom as being perverted. He is of course an Anglo.

Any thoughts???

[SwordandCompass]

I never slept in my parents bed.I was never scared enough i guess.The question is why does your daughters want to sleep with you guys?

[It-Alien]

Nothing wrong with sleeping in your parents bed, i used to up to the age of 6 (but not often).

I think 13 years old is a lil old for that but it's not perverted.

[alex221166]

Never. When we were kids, I remember that during the weekend, when we all woke up in the morning, we would all end up in their bed room to talk and crack jokes.

One of my older brothers did sleep in my parents' bed ocasionally, until he was 4 or 5.

Any thoughts

The real issue is: does it bother you and your wife? If it does, you should stop it. If it doesn't, there's no harm done.

[Ptolemy]

..::Mr said:

Nothing wrong with sleeping in your parents bed, i used to up to the age of 6 (but not often).

I think 13 years old is a lil old for that but it's not perverted.

To be certain, the thirteen year-old has stopped coming in. Sometimes she comes in the morning to talk to my wife, but she has stopped crawling in at night.

I really don't know why they made a habit of this, often, I will wake up in the morning and they will just be there, I didn't even know they had crawled in.

[BallisticaNervosa]

Ptolemy said:

Any thoughts???

Fear of the night, perhaps? Maybe you should talk with them about it, find if they're afraid of something.

In the end, it could all mean that they love both their parents too much

[izabet]

My son sleeps in my bed from time to time. It's usually to settle him down when he's upset in the middle of the night, or won't be rocked to sleep. He's only 16 months old though!

I don't think it's perverted, though being a single parent, I want to put a stop to it, mainly for psychological reasons, but not before he's 3 or so.

[izabet]

Oh, and to answer the question. No, I didn't sleep in their bed, though my sister and I did go play with my mom in the morning, while my dad got ready for work. They never tolerated us coming to their room in the middle of the night. Fortunately, I was a good sleeper and rarely woke up at night. My sister has never slept well.

[pconroy]

I never slept in my parents bed at any age.

I think that it's unnatural for children over the age of 2 to sleep in their parent's bed. I think you may be well intentioned in allowing this, but be aware that it can cause emotional problems later on.

I don't think psychoanalysts would find this healthy in any way, for your children, particularly when they probably have reached puberty already.

I think you need to set boundaries for what is and isn't age appropriate behavior for your children. To me this is not age approprite.

I also wonder how you and your wife cope with this, surely there isn't going to be much room in the bed, at the very least.

It also leads me to think that either you or your wife are trying to subconsciously create a little emotional distance between yourselves in the bedroom.

Just my thoughts - don't be upset if I offend you!